Tips On How To Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back – The Ideas To Win Back Ex-GF Swiftly

In order to fully commit to getting your GF back you need to determine if it is on a need or want basis.

This is a very important difference that changes the whole argument. You will probably want her back if you two had a great relationship but something went wrong. Feelings such as these show that you definitely have a reason to try and get her back and it is possible that you will. If you feel as if you need her back because you are too scared to get a new GF then you need to stop and be honest with yourself. Women tend to have multiple emotionally intimate relationships whereas men tend to solely emotionally rely on their GF for emotional intimacy. So when you say you need your ex-girlfriend back you should evaluate if you really want her or if you just want someone to fill a hole in your life. Try to determine if you are thinking that your ex girlfriend’s presence will fill a void or if you are focusing on her as a person.  Do not push her farther away by ignoring her specific good points and only focusing on how her presence makes you feel less lonely. This woman may be special to you know but remember that you will most likely have many important relationships in your life.

How you can get back your ex-girlfriend by stopping the jealousy

Women really dislike when their boyfriend are jealous. Jealousy is associated with fear and anxiety which are two unattractive traits to have. It is also a non-verbal cue to your ex girlfriend that you are trying to control her. No one wants to be controlled or feel threatened by their partner’s jealousy. It will help if you can identify the situations that trigger your feelings of jealousy. If your self-confidence is low you probably experience jealousy quite often. Feelings of abandonment and rejection can fuel insecure feelings and jealousy. You need to accept that you are good enough and if people ridicule you it is just because others are short-sighted sometimes. Do not compare yourself to others or focus on your shortcomings. Recognize that paranoia is a part of jealousy and when you start to feel jealous don’t respond in your default pattern.

 How you can win back your ex GF with a simple apology

One of the best ways to get your ex-lover back is to acknowledge your shortcomings. Even if she was the one who broke up with you there is probably a reason that you should apologize. An apology shows her that you are capable of swallowing your ego. When you say you are sorry you are also telling her without words how much she means to you.  Take this opportunity during your time apart to see why you both broke up and what you could have done differently.  Doing this lets you clearly see what elements of your life need to be worked on so you can be a more desirable person when you go to get her back.  Your ex will see that you are serious about changing areas in your life that need to be changed. You can apologize to her through a letter where you can clearly express your feelings. When you write the letter indicate that you made mistakes and want to take responsibility for those. Giving your ex-girlfriend an apology is the best way to move forward and start anew with her.

Work up to a friendship with your ex girlfriend in order to get her back

Working on a friendship with your ex will help greatly when you want to get back together with her.  Perhaps you both do not trust each other as much as you should and now you can fix that. You want to show your ex that you are worthy of her trust as it is an essential element in relationships. In the beginning try to have meetings and conversations with her that are brief but enjoyable. You do not want to rush this process so make boundaries for yourself for how often you will see her. Be sure to let her know that you appreciate her friendship and feel positive about her.   Remember to do things with her that are fun and casual like riding bikes or getting coffee.  You want her to be reminded of all the good times that you two had together without outright saying it. Have conversations about things you both find funny and remember to act confident and playful. Encourage her to continue developing her own interests and don’t forget to keep working on your own goals.

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